- What you don't know controls you
- Strauss walks us through the lessons he has learned about commitments and relationships and how to best form and cultivate them
- Anything emotionally traumatizing is with us forever and manifests itself in many different ways. What is hysterical is historical
- Children who are over controlled by their parents often compensate as adults by excessive lying
- The sins of the parents are the Destinys of the children unless they wake up and do something about it
- Aim to be an "independent spectator" of your own life to get a better perspective on the story you tell yourself about your life - gives you a clearer view of the baggage you carry around
- Only when your love for someone exceeds your need for them can a true relationship form
- Real truth is self evident. You feel it immediately resonate through your body as your heart and mind connect. All else is just information, not truth
- Impatience is the enemy of intimacy
- Where there is reactivity there is a wound
- You can't commit to someone expecting them to change. You must wholeheartedly accept who they are
- The opposite of fear is not love but acceptance
- The most loving thing you can do for others is to strengthen the relationship you have with yourself. The greatest gift to others is our own best self
What I got out of it
- A very honest detailing of Strauss' life and struggles with monogamy and relationships
