- Radical acceptance - recognize what is true and embrace it with an open heart. The willingness and courage to experience ourselves and our life as is. It is a state of unlimited freedom
- Much human suffering comes from mistakenly identifying ourselves and our experiences as something separate from the rest of the world
- Recognize what you resist and reject - body, looks, intelligence, etc. As these traits are made conscious and accepted, they lose power over us
- By radically accepting, you are mindful of everything going on, every thought and not trying to pull away. It means fully feeling both joyful and painful emotions without holding back any part of it
- Acceptance is not resigning ourselves for better or for worse. When you completely accept yourself, you can begin making big, lasting changes
- Do not deny nor suppress desires. Recognize it and why you are feeling that way
- Take several mini pauses every day to check on your breathe and mindset. Take longer pauses (retreats, etc) throughout the year. Helps you open up completely to the experience of the moment, become conscious of it and accept it
- The worst part of pain is the anticipation of it
- Buddha's teaching that desiring causes suffering comes from clinging to things or experiences that naturally are transient, it is not the desires themselves which inherently cause suffering
- Suffering comes from resisting and fighting your temptations, not the actual temptations
- Be very mindful that the stories you create, around fear or anything else, are just that, stories. They are not fact and can very well be completely off
- Attention is the most basic form of love
- Try not to classify others (depressed, alcoholic, etc) as this makes us blind to the actual person
- When we are open, honest and authentic, we open the door for others to do the same
What I got out of it
- The practices and steps outlined in this book will help you come to terms with any feelings of unworthiness slowly accept and get over them. A bit repetitive in her examples but I'm sure she discusses any problem situations that you have come across. Don't resist your pain or disappointments, become aware of them, how they make you feel and accept them. Only then will you be able to get over it