- There is of course inequality but there is also a lack of agency, of responsibility, of accountability that JD has found in his cohort
- The honor culture of the south leads many into violence and revenge, not being able to let an insult go
- For most hillbillies, the only way up is to move out. There are astonishing numbers of people moving away from the Appalachian region every year, in pursuit of a livable wage
- People don’t expect much of themselves because the people around them aren’t doing very much
- Despite all the social and peers pressures, JD received a different message at home that it was alright to learn and to strive and that made all the difference to him
- Parent’s desire for their kids to do better didn’t just relate to education, work, and pay, but to relationships too. Low expectations for those living in the Appalachians is hurting every generation
- JD had no role models for relationships and thought that screaming, violence, and hitting was how adults spoke to each other
- We are all very bad at judging ourselves
- His grandma was his most important positive influence as she showed him not only what was possible but how to get there. She helped him raise what he expected out of himself
- The instability in JD’s life was so disruptive. He was in several different homes with several different father figures in only a couple of years. Once he had a safe, stable place with grandma, he was able to focus and do his work
- JD enlisted in the marine corps and graduating was his proudest accomplishment. He got out of his learned helplessness and it made him see and question things once he returned home
- Sometimes those in power try to help the helpless without truly understanding their situation, which often ends up with negative consequences
- When a group believes that hard work will pay off, they all work harder and go all-in, often with amazing results
- The predominant emotion in lower middle class working white Americans is a sense of pessimism and a lack of accountability. They’re not willing to work hard and be consistent and blame others or the government for their problems
- Most successful people don't even play the same game as the people JD grew up with. He had no idea how important networking, one's social capital, was for one's prospects. He learned this during his time at Yale Law and going through the interview/admissions process
What I got out of it
- An amazing dive into the life of poor Appalachians and the struggles they face. JD told his story in such an open, transparent, vulnerable way and gave me insight into situations I didn't appreciate or know much about before. Inspiring how hard JD worked to escape his situation, his learned helplessness