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The Three Questions: How to Discover and Master the Power Within You by Don Miguel Ruiz

  1. “At each stage in our lives, we must ask these simple yet deeply profound questions. Finding the answers will open the door to the next stage in our development, and eventually lead us to our complete, truest selves”
Key Takeaways
  1. Who am I? You will know who you are by what you are not
  2. What is real? You will know what is real by what is not real
  3. What is love? You will know love when you know what love is not
  4. Everyone feels good around someone who has genuine love for themselves. We can never give what we do not have so it makes sense that it would be hard to truly love others if we don’t move ourselves. Be aware of your self talk and be affectionate and compassionate to yourself. Unconditional love of yourself is paradise.
  5. You can love without worrying about getting anything in return. You’ll find that you come to love naturally. When you don’t have to defend your opinions, you’re free to be authentic and open, surrendering to life
  6. Love has no conditions
  7. When there is nothing left to defend, truth is all that’s left
  8. The solution to all conflict is respect
  9. One of the biggest barriers to love is fear. We must be extremely aware of irrational fears, things which aren’t real, things which we’ve made up. We must face the fear and increase clarity, bringing calm and self awareness.
  10. Fear, left unchallenged, controls our actions. We are often most afraid of our reactions and enjoy being the victim. Awareness is our gift and salvation
  11. Searching for answers brings unexpected revelations. Curiosity opens unseen doors. We allow ourselves to receive the information of life. When we can’t master our own attention, we miss a lot. Too much focus on one thing means we miss so much around us
  12. Humanity’s greatest art is to dream consciously
  13. When you give up having to know or be right, you become so much lighter
  14. People trust authenticity more than almost anything
What I got out of it
  1. Be authentic, self-aware, and give as much of yourself to others as you can

Living a Life of Awareness by Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr.


  1. Miguel Ruiz Jr follows in his fathers footsteps with the Toltec way of life and explains that total and unconditional self love and other love, complete acceptance and awareness lead to a happy life as it helps us realize we are simply perfect just the way we are
Key Takeaways
  1. Unconditional love for others and oneself, awareness of illusions and delusions, completely accepting oneself and not creating false illusions of ourselves that we can’t live up to
  2. The only truth is this very moment
  3. We free ourselves of illusions through awareness and acceptance
  4. We are much larger than any of our beliefs, ideas, illusions. We therefore need not fight or impose our wills on anything or anyone
  5. We are absolutely perfect just the way we are. Be very aware of when you get emotional, defensive, judgmental as this is a good sign you are attached to something which you can let go
  6. Only do things because you want to, not because you feel like you should or have to
  7. Toltec means artist – be the artist of your life and live your dream
  8. Make your narrator your ally instead of a parasite – operating from unconditional vs conditional love
  9. Who we are is beyond any words. We can describe roles, feelings and emotions but never who we truly are
  10. Practicing, improving and integrating throughout the day the skill of listening to your inner silence is key
  11. Must have unconditional love for self before can give unconditional love to others
What I got out of it
  1. Beautiful and all important for a happy life. Echoes The Four Agreements and gives daily meditations on how to keep these topics top of mind. Physical book worth getting for daily dosage of awareness

The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

  1. Don Miguel Ruiz again lays out extremely powerful principles in a simple and easy to follow way. As with his other books, what he preaches is easy to say but difficult to follow. By truly loving yourself, you open yourself up to happiness and love from others.
Key Takeaways:
  1. Have to love yourself before you can truly love anyone else
  2. The perfect woman/relationship is one where you do not want or need to change your partner nor they you
  3. You love yourself and because of this, you have no false pretenses about yourself or who you are. You are completely happy and satisfied being completely alone but sharing moments is also nice
  4. In your heart is all the love you’ll ever need. It can create any amount of love – not just for yourself, but for the entire world. You can love unconditionally and this will attract everyone
  5. What makes you truly happy is love coming out of you
  6. Be generous with your love. Generosity opens all doors
  7. Your reactions are the key to having a wonderful life
  8. Your life is a manifestation of your personal dream. Become a dream master
  9. Becoming aware is about being responsible for your own life
  10. One’s true mission in life is to make yourself happy
What I got out of it:
  1. An amazingly profound book which has also been extremely influential in the way I think about myself and my relationships with others. Highly recommend

The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

  1. Don Miguel Ruiz’s writing is so influential and powerful because of his ability to simply and beautifully convey his message. By following these 4 agreements, you can focus on the right things in life, gain perspective on issues and live a much happier, less stressful life.
Key Takeaways:
  1. The Four Agreements are:
    1. Be Impeccable with your Word
    2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
    3. Don’t Make Assumptions
    4. Always Do Your Best
What I got out of it:
  1. One of the books that has had the deepest impact on my life to date. While the agreements are so easy to say, putting them into practice day in and day out is what is difficult. Cannot recommend this book enough.